I get it, we’ve all been there. Some days are more frustrating than others when it comes to being a parent.
I wont try and say I never yell, because it just wouldn’t be true.
I wont tell you that you shouldn’t yell, because how you parent is your call.
But, read on to see what you’re really saying to your kids when you yell, and you can decide if it’s what you want.
I will tell you this…it’s not what you’re trying to say!
When we get upset, frustrated that we’re not being heard, sometimes we raise our voices. We do this to get the point across that what we are saying is important and needs to be heard, but is that really what we’re accomplishing?
When you yell at a child, they aren’t hearing what you are saying. They aren’t even completely getting why you are upset!
The message you are sending is this…CALM ME DOWN!
Think about it…you’re worked up, steam coming out your ears mad, and you’re putting a message across to your child that you’re not taking a step back until they pacify you in some way (by doing what you told them).
Calm Me Down.
I need you to calm me down, because I can’t do it myself.
That’s a lot of pressure to put on a child.
To have the responsibility of someone else’s feelings on their shoulders when they haven’t even figured out their own yet!
Remember this next time you’re about to blow, and try your best to choose calm over chaos.
Not only will this help your child focus on the message you are actually trying to get across, but you’ll remind them that you are their rock, you are there for them to lean on, and you’ll demonstrate how to properly handle frustrations when they come their way later on in life!
How do you catch yourself when you’re about to “lose it”? Comment below!
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