We’ve all tried to tell our children at one point or another…words hurt!
But do they really?
I mean, I know that they don’t make you feel super great when they are mean or critical, but do words they really do the damage we try to explain to our kids?
Maddie’s a visual learner (just like her mama!), so we put it to the test!
Naturally, when you are trying to explain to a child that words can be damaging to someone, you end up looking for different ways to get this lesson to make sense!
It’s hard to express something when you can’t show the results you’re trying to explain, but thanks to DanielleLaPorte and her beautifully creative mind, we found a way!
We picked a “very special” apple, and sliced it in half. One half was the good half that we supported and encouraged with kind words and a gentle tone of voice. The other half was the bad half, which we talked smack to for the last week!
I have to say, it’s really hard to be mean to someone/something for no reason…especially when it’s a fruit! But once we got into it, it was pretty fun!
I found myself holding back a little sometimes to keep things “Maddie appropriate” with the bad apple, but Maddie “let loose” and was absolutely hilarious with her “mean talk”…
“You Smell Like A Monster” and “You don’t take good care of your library books” are just a couple of examples of the 3 year old cruelty the bad apple had to endure!
We ran this experiment for the last week, taking a minute a few times a day to speak to each half of the apple, and observing the changes. You can see from the picture, our bad apple is on the right, and definitely didn’t hang on as well as the good side did!
Is this because we were mean to the bad side?
Or was it our kindness to the good side that kept it healthier?
Maybe a combination of the two?
Regardless of the reasoning, this was a great visual representation of how words can affect people, and Maddie definitely learned that “kindness grows great things” and “mean words damage”.
I know I will definitely remember the differences we saw in these apples next time I’m about to lose my cool, and will choose my words a little more carefully from now on!
Try this in your house, and let me know in the comments below how it turns out for you/for your kids!
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